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{ Sunday, December 16, 2007 }

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I've been working on our registry. The whole idea of a registry goes against the principles we've been trying to live by—consume only what you need, buy new as the last option, etc. But we realized that even if you try to do it simply, you do need a significant amount of stuff for a baby.

So I made a list of priorities for us as we build our registry:
  1. Can something else serve this purpose?
  2. Buy locally made. If that's not possible, buy locally available. If that's not possible, buy fair-trade.
  3. Buy organic and/or natural (non-synthetic) materials.
I've been sticking to the locally available and organic/natural guidelines pretty well, but it sure is easy to get wrapped up in what people say you "need" for a baby. I mean, do you really need that many different types of linens for an 8-pound human? Wash cloths, burp cloths, receiving blankets, swaddling blankets, and on and on. Maybe you do—I guess I won't really know til I get there. And so I'm probably going a little overboard and putting things on the registry you can live without pretty easily.

So here's my pledge to anyone out there who's actually interested in all this anti-affluenza pregnancy talk: As I discover what you actually do need versus what's just nice-to-have, I'll share that here. I'm sure it's different for every baby and their parents, but at least it will be a starting point.

And if you know of a knowledge base like that already out there, please let me know!

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{ Wednesday, December 05, 2007 }

6:39 AM | link

As of today, I am 7 months pregnant! Wow.

I could have this baby anywhere from 9 to 14 weeks from now. What I really want to be doing is getting our house ready, working on our registry, and mentally preparing myself for the work of labor. But we're hosting two (!) holiday parties this weekend, I'm helping to coordinate two groups adopting families in need for the holidays, and we have two of our own Salvation Army angels to shop for. I did this to myself, I know. And it's one of the things I love about the holidays—the crazy busyness.

But I should have been more protective of my time because I feel a wee little breakdown peeking its head around the corner at me every couple of days. I'm so busy I don't even have time to get my celebratory turned-another-month-milestone massage this weekend! There's something not right about that, huh?

But I know I'll get through it. In a couple weeks, it's going to be all baby prep all the time. I promise.

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{ Sunday, December 02, 2007 }

9:46 AM | link

Oh goodness. I haven't posted since March? Shame on me. I have been thinking about this site a lot lately and how I really enjoy posting. So I'm going to try to post more often again.

First, an update: A lot has changed this year. I'm pregnant and due early March/late February next year. My 18-year-old niece is living with us while she goes to her first year of college. My sister passed away unexpectedly in February. This baby growing in my belly is due to join this world on my sister's birthday. I know babies rarely come on their due dates, but regardless of when she shows up, I feel that this baby's life will honor my sister's memory. And yes, our baby is a girl.

I am so incredibly excited and happy and scared about becoming a mother. But sometimes, it's felt bittersweet given what all has happened this year.

I was thinking about my sister last night during dinner. I don't think about her much these days because I'm keeping myself very busy with preparing our house and our lives for a baby. But sometimes, I can't quite keep myself busy enough and it sneaks up on me, like last night.

We were talking about the holidays and what we could send family. Since I left for college 11 years ago, I haven't stayed in close contact with my family. There are some good reasons for that, which I think resulted in me growing up to be a stronger, healthier person. But the offshoot is that I didn't stay in close contact with some family I wish I would have, including my sister and her children.

So I was thinking of sending some goodies home with my niece when she goes back for Christmas to share with her sisters and brothers. And then it hit me—my sister won't be around this Christmas. She always cooked so much food. Like for an army. Seriously. But she won't be there to do that. And at Jason's Deli while eating my baked potato with no bacon no chives easy on the cheese, I couldn't hold the tears back. I didn't sob out loud, but I'm sure those poor Jason's Deli employees who walked by noticed the tears streaming down my face. I haven't cried about her in a couple of months, so it took me by surprise (and Erik, I'm sure).

I want her back. I want to tell her I'm sorry. Whenever I'm alone and I think of her now, I say to her out loud that I'm sorry. I'm sorry for throwing the baby out with the bathwater. I'm sorry for not being there for her. I'm sorry I can't ever have a closer relationship with my sister again. I lost my chance.

I started attending a loss of sibling support group last Thursday. Which is probably why things are coming up for me again. But it was good for me. The counselor said something that keeps repeating itself in my head. None of us think today is going to be our last day. We always think we'll have more time to do x, y, or z. But sometimes you don't.

This was hard for me to hear. There are many things in life I want to accomplish, and I always assume I'll have tomorrow to get to them. Kind of like how I always assumed I could rekindle my relationship with my sister.

So promise me this: If there's a person in your life who you wish you were closer to, give them a call or drop them an email today. If you had a stupid fight or just fell out of contact with them, none of that will matter when the time has run out.

This reminds me of something Ann Richards' granddaughter Lily Adams said when Richards passed away. She was recalling her grandmother's advice to her and her siblings and cousins:
"This is your life. It is the only one you get. So no excuses and no do-overs. If you make a mistake or fail at something, you learn from it, you get over it, and you move on. Your job is to be the very best person you can be and to never settle for anything less."
Well said, Ann.

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{ Saturday, March 17, 2007 }

9:56 AM | link

If you eat canned foods or use type #7 plastics, you are exposing yourself to Bisphenol A. What is that, you ask? It's a plastic and resin ingredient used to line metal food and drink cans, and it's a main building block for polycarbonate (PC) plastics. But here's the kicker: Even at low doses, Bisphenol A has been linked to cancer, birth defects, miscarriages, obesity, and insulin resistance, which can lead to Type II diabetes.

If you'd like to rid your life of this chemical, here are some things you can do, some of which are recommendations from Environmental Working Group:We buy certain canned items every week for convenience (such as beans), so I'm going to contact all the brands we usually buy and get confirmation about whether they use Bisphenol A in their cans. Here are the brands we use:

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{ Friday, January 26, 2007 }

7:15 AM | link

Maybe Bush calling out the Baby Einstein creator at the State of the Union address had a deeper motive:
Particularly relevant to the future state of our democratic union is research showing that the more time babies spend in front of TV, the less time they spend in one activity which we know is educational--creative play. Losing, or never acquiring, the ability to play may not sound like much until you realize that play is essential not just to learning, but to democracy. It's through playing that children learn skills essential to thriving in, and protecting, a democratic society. Critical thinking, initiative, curiosity, problem solving and creativity are capacities that develop through play, as are the more ephemeral qualities of self-reflection, empathy, and the ability to find meaning in life.

And what do children learn from the more than forty hours a week they spend with a commercially dominated media? They are being taught the corporate values embraced and promulgated by the Bush administration--unthinking brand loyalty, impulse buying, and a belief that consumption is the solution to all ills. Remember, this is the administration that told us to go shopping after the World Trade Center was attacked.

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{ Sunday, January 21, 2007 }

11:22 AM | link

So it's Girl Scout cookie time again! I usually love this time of year, but this year I checked the ingredients list and found two big no-nos—partially hydrogenated oils and high-fructose corn syrup. Ugh. So to combat my depression over not eating the cookies this year, I sent this email to the Girl Scouts:
When my neighbor Girl Scout came by today to sell cookies, I was disappointed to see that even after all the negative studies about the effects of trans fats, the cookies still contain partially hydrogenated oils. In addition, they contain high-fructose corn syrup, which has been shown to cause liver damage over time.

Please improve the ingredients of your cookies so that I may continue to support your organization without putting my family's health at risk.

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{ Saturday, January 20, 2007 }

10:42 PM | link

Tonight, we finally watched An Inconvenient Truth. I highly recommend the movie. It has some great ideas at the end for how you can make manageable changes in your own life to help prevent the effects of global warming.

After the movie, we went poking around online. So what's your ecological footprint? My total footprint is 14 acres, compared to an average of 24 acres per person in the US. Sounds good, huh? Well...
IF EVERYONE LIVED LIKE YOU, WE WOULD NEED 3.2 PLANETS.
Doh.

So as a first step, we just made our first annual (tax-deductible) donation to offset our carbon footprint. And we're going to go back and make special donations anytime we take a trip that's over our 6,000 miles/year budget (as calculated for our annual donation).

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{ Thursday, January 18, 2007 }

7:16 AM | link

Have you called your House representative this week? If not, this plan is a good excuse to call! You can ask them to support the Bring Our Troops Home Act or at the very least ask them to stop the escalation.
Today in the House of Representatives, I am introducing the Bring Our Troops Home and Sovereignty of Iraq Restoration Act, a comprehensive legislative proposal to quickly end the occupation of Iraq. It is a broad measure, capturing ideas from military and diplomatic experts and including provisions offered in previous legislative proposals. Specifically, the bill would, among other things:

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{ Monday, January 15, 2007 }

6:41 PM | link

I came across this quote from a speech by Arundhati Roy, and I had to share it:
Another world is not only possible, she is on her way. On a quiet day, I can hear her breathing.

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7:18 AM | link

A study has shown that whites behave differently in all-white groups and racially diverse groups. Quite an argument for having a diverse workplace:
Something more subtle -- and intriguing -- also seems to happen when people of color join groups that were formerly all white: The entire group starts to think in new ways. Minorities, in other words, not only bring new perspectives to the table but also seem to catalyze new thinking among others.

Tufts University psychologist Sam Sommers recently created mock juries -- either all white or diverse -- with volunteers from the public. He then provided the groups with ambiguous information about a crime involving a sexual assault and a black defendant. Sommers asked his "jurors" to judge whether the defendant was guilty.

About a third of whites in juries that were diverse thought the defendant was guilty, while 50 percent of the jurors in all-white groups reached that conclusion. What was really interesting, however, is that Sommers had people draw their conclusions before the groups had any discussions. The mere presence of people of color in the diverse groups caused whites to think differently about the case.

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1:34 AM | link

A little late coming, but here are the books I read in 2006. My goal was to read one a week, but I didn't quite make it. But I did read more than last year, so I'm happy about that!

On the political front, I would recommend Fast Food Nation and Iraq: The Logic of Withdrawal to anyone. In children's fiction, I loved Speak, The Folk Keeper, Well Wished, Because of Winn-Dixie, and The Outcasts of 19 Schuyler Place. Besides Fast Food Nation, there were some others I've been wanting to read for a while and finally did—1984 and His Dark Materials trilogy (The Golden Compass, etc). And the one book I wish every woman would read is Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It ain't just about wanting to get pregnant! However, if you are on the parenthood track, I highly recommend Our Babies, Ourselves.

For more information about each book, see my LibraryThing reviews.
  1. The Outcasts of 19 Schuyler Place
  2. Two or Three Things I Know for Sure
  3. The House on Mango Street
  4. The Secret Life of Bees
  5. Cat Vs. Cat: Keeping Peace When You Have More Than One Cat by Pam Johnson-Bennett
  6. The Pleasure of My Company
  7. Once Upon a Marigold
  8. Are You There God? It's Me, Margaret
  9. Prep
  10. The Folk Keeper
  11. The Attachment Parenting Book
  12. Bee Season
  13. Fast Food Nation
  14. Monster
  15. The View from Saturday
  16. The Center of Everything
  17. Martin's Mice
  18. Godless
  19. Speak
  20. George's Marvelous Medicine
  21. Because of Winn-Dixie
  22. There's a Boy in the Girls' Bathroom
  23. 1984
  24. Jemima J
  25. The Golden Compass
  26. The Subtle Knife
  27. Edward R. Murrow and the Birth of Broadcast Journalism
  28. The Birth of a Mother: How the Motherhood Experience Changes You Forever
  29. Thinking Pregnant: Conceiving Your New Life With a Baby
  30. Do I Want to Be A Mom? A Woman's Guide to the Decision of a Lifetime
  31. Little Earthquakes
  32. Iraq: The Logic of Withdrawal
  33. Our Babies, Ourselves: How Biology and Culture Shape the Way We Parent
  34. Taking Charge of Your Fertility: The Definitive Guide to Natural Birth Control, Pregnancy Achievement, and Reproductive Health
  35. The Amber Spyglass
  36. American Islam: Growing Up Muslim in America
  37. Well Wished

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{ Thursday, January 11, 2007 }

6:41 AM | link

So. Stay the course + 21,500. Oops, except make that 18,500.
Britain will cut troop levels in Iraq by almost 3,000 at the end of May, the Daily Telegraph reported on Thursday, citing a timetable for withdrawal the newspaper said it had seen. Within the next two weeks, Prime Minister Tony Blair would announce the reduction to Britain's 7,200-strong force based in the south of the war-ravaged country, it said.
Know what I say? Hell NO.

Search to see if there's an event planned for your area today. And go. Please, please go.

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{ Wednesday, January 10, 2007 }

6:51 AM | link

Here's a preemptive petition (appropriate, huh?) to prevent escalation in Iraq. BUT DON'T SIGN IT.

Instead, take those 2 minutes of your life to do something more effective—call your U.S. representative today and register your opinion that way. A phone call is a thousand times more effective than a mailed letter, which is five hundred thousand times more effective than an email.

To find the phone number for your representative, visit congress.org and enter your ZIP code.

Call the DC number or the district office number. Doesn't really matter. Just call. All you have to say is something like "I'm a constituent of Congress(wo)man So-and-So, and I'm calling to ask that s/he oppose any increase in American troops in Iraq." Don't worry—the staffer won't ask you why or challenge you. They'll just record your call and add it to the report of constituent feedback for their boss.

Then if you call, go ahead and sign the petition. It couldn't hurt.

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{ Saturday, January 06, 2007 }

9:09 AM | link

Last night on All Things Considered, Guy Raz did a story on the conservative American Enterprise Institute's latest report on Iraq. Here's a tidbit:
And here's something you can try. Over the weekend, go to AEI's web site, aei.org. Read their Iraq proposal carefully. And then next week, when the President comes out to announce his new Iraq strategy, compare and contrast. And don't be surprised if they look a lot alike.
So to save you all some time, I read through the executive summary of the report myself. Here's an executive summary of the executive summary—their words, not mine:So I guess we'll see next week.

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{ Friday, January 05, 2007 }

8:18 PM | link

Does Molly Ivins have a hidden camera in my heart?
The president of the United States does not have the sense God gave a duck—so it’s up to us. You and me, Bubba.

I don’t know why Bush is just standing there like a frozen rabbit, but it’s time we found out. The fact is we have to do something about it. This country is being torn apart by an evil and unnecessary war, and it has to be stopped now.
So. What will we do? We obviously need some new ideas. So here's my best crack at it for right now. Please respond with your ideas!

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